Overcome Addiction Shame & Stigma: How to Thrive in Recovery and Prevent Relapse

Speaking with Jacobo Rengifo Cavestany, I was struck by the way this conversation connected addiction, emotional pain and the conditions that make sustainable recovery possible. These subjects are often discussed separately, although in a person’s life they can influence one another continuously.

I was reminded that stopping a behaviour is only one part of recovery. Lasting change often depends on understanding what the substance or behaviour provided, what becomes exposed when it is removed, and which relationships and structures can support a different way of living.

This is also why relapse should be examined with honesty rather than reduced to moral failure. Safety and accountability matter, but shame rarely provides a stable foundation for change. A coherent plan must address the person, their environment and the period after intensive support ends.

My broader reflection is that balance is not a fixed destination. It is the capacity to notice what is happening, understand what may be driving it and respond with greater awareness. Professional support can help create that capacity, but it must remain grounded in the person’s circumstances, choices and safety.

Jacobo opens up about what it really means to hit rock bottom—manipulation, relapse, and suicidal thoughts—while also reflecting on the moments that helped him begin to heal: therapy, trust, and learning to face emotions rather than escape them.

Today, as a practitioner, Jacobo transforms his lived experience into guidance for others. He explains why empathy, honesty, and individualized recovery are at the heart of his work, and what long-term healing really looks like: imperfect, non-linear, but deeply human.

Tune in for an unfiltered conversation about addiction, loss, and recovery—and the strength it takes to start again.

Throughout the discussion, we return to the importance of looking beneath visible symptoms or behaviours. The aim is not to force one explanation onto every experience, but to understand the combination of history, relationships, body, environment and meaning that may be relevant for this individual.